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The below is copied from my friend Zingtrial's blog, Working Away. I thought the advice was good and know myself that often l am the last one l think about in everyday life. I am now going to take a little more time for myself and nurture my friendships :)


Here are 8 steps to help you raise your self-esteem.(feel good about yourself.) take control of the way you feel about yourself

1. ENJOY RISKS: Remember that without risk, there is no progress. If you don’t try something new, you will never know anything different about yourself. Learn to be a risk-taker in at least some aspect of your life.Taking a class or learning something new will make you discover new things about yourself.
2.VISUALIZE SUCCESS: Imagine that your goals have been achieved.(of course, most of us rarely accomplish all goals that we set for ourselves)but if you want to do something or have something,you can visualize it and get energy and motivation out of it. It helps the dream become reality.
3.SHARE GRATITUDE: Remember to thank people who have helped you or who are helpful to you.You will feel better about yourself if you compliment other people for their accomplishments.Whether it is your child or someone else’s, a friend who needs a boost,or someone you admire or perhaps has helped you in some way,you will learn that boosting in others in others is important as well.It says good things about you if you are able to acknowledge the strengths and triumphs in those around you.
4.TREAT YOURSELF AT NIGHT: Make your bed time a happy time,quite time.We all must deal with chaos around us,but everyone should make an effort to set aside some part of the evening for him/herself.You must learn to create a heaven around you,to nurture yourself and to treat yourself well.After all,my friends if you don’t create a sense of calm around and about you .who will?Always feel tomorrow will be better,and many times it is.
5.CREATE A BUDDY SYSTEM .We all want to cry over somebody’s shoulder.Find a strong and sincere shoulder.Invest in true friends.Take care of their problems,be there for them and they will be there for you.Select them carefully and nurture your relationships with them In return,you will get tremendous sustenance.
6. ACCEPT FAILURES: Don’t give up!You know, we all sometimes goof up, make mistakes,become embarrassed or confused in front of other people.SO WHAT?Most people feel the same way.It’s a rare person who never makes a mistake.The best thing to do is to persevere when we start something.Maybe we will not like it once we are finished,but we will still feel better about ourselves for having finshed it and followed through on a commitment.
7.TRACK YOUR PROGRESS: Outline your personal goals. keep track of them through index cards or similar system to list exactly what it is you want to do with life,This can be easily updated and changed on frequent basis.Our lives are constantly in a state of change,so our goals will experience similar changes.
8. HAVE FAITH: Remember what Eleanor Roosevelt said : "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."You need to become your best friend and biggest fan,Every one needs a cheerleader,and if you don’t happen to have one,then do it yourself!Talk yourself up.Always believe that God almighty is fair and generous,and some day,somwhere,he will compensate you.